Updated: Dec 14, 2021
Someone at work once told me there is a difference between being alone and being lonely…as I pondered that driving home from work for several days I started to understand what that person meant, and for several years perhaps even accepted that…you know, the Lone Ranger…but now I’m not so sure.
I don’t think it has to do with COVID 19 restrictions…in fact, I have enjoyed working at home, albeit human interaction is somewhat limited and routine…and if I’m honest with myself I find social interaction can be “hard work” or maybe I’m just lazy – I don’t know.
But just as a co-worker had me thinking about the difference between being alone and being lonely, a young man taught me something else about social interaction…he was struggling with social interaction so I shared with him that social interaction is hard for me too…to which he replied, “You may not like doing it, but I don’t even know how to do it”…I was at a loss for words…it never occurred to me that for some it’s not so much that it’s hard, but it’s next to impossible if you don’t know how…
I think many of us miss this opportunity…we’re so involved in our self…our selfies, our social media, are own concerns that we don’t realize our opportunity to engage with others who don’t know how to engage with us…and for various reasons.